Al
Anon’s Tradition 1: Our common welfare should come first. Personal progress for
the greatest number depends on unity.
I’ve
been around Al Anon enough to see this tradition working (or not working) in
the groups and how we should keep the traditions in mind. But, one night it
really rang true to me because I could see how it could work in my life outside
the program.
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A
couple of years ago I was having trouble with my boyfriend and it seemed that
we were on the verge of breaking up. I went to an Al Anon meeting on Tradition
1. People at the meeting talked about their families and how they used this
tradition to keep the peace in their households. They talked about agreeing to
disagree and being equal to those around you. I also learned to listen with
love even when I didn’t agree with the person. I realized that, as a couple,
our common welfare should come first and that we should put that first, above
petty personal issues.
Now
when I think that I have a bone to pick, this tradition stops me in my tracks. Arguing,
criticizing or other destructive behavior will not help keep us together. We
can still be individuals, but if I am behaving in a way that will separate us,
I am not thinking of “our common welfare”.
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